The emotional weight of infertility can feel insurmountable at times: feelings of anger, shame, hollowness, isolation, devastation and more. I’ve been there. It’s not easy.
When dealing with the emotional weight of infertility it can be helpful to remember that everything related to the emotional weight is energy — our thoughts, beliefs and emotions. When we’re feeling out of sorts, this is a sign that there’s stuck energy. Learning simple energy medicine tools can help you get the energy flowing again allowing the emotional weight of infertility to lift.
Here are some key tips for getting the energy moving.
- Ground — When we’re caught up in the emotional weight of infertility we’re not in present time. We’re either in the past, thinking about lab test results or something someone said to us, or in the future, wondering when our life will change. Being grounded and centered is a way to be in the here and now. When we’re grounded the impact of stress is diminished and we feel balanced and at home in our body. A few ways to ground include yoga, tai chi, qi gong, spending time in nature and meditation.
- Talk with a trusted friend or professional — Being seen and heard is important when you’re going through the fertility process. So often those of us who go through infertility feel alone, like there’s no one who really cares. Finding a trusted person who can hear what you have to say without needing to fix you, and someone who does not judge or blame you can be very healing. Being able to voice what’s going on for you in this way helps to get stuck energy moving up and out of you.
- Feel and process your emotions — Emotions are energy. When an emotion arises, even if it’s difficult, be with it. It has something to tell you. When you allow space to process your emotions, you can move the energy. If you find yourself looking for distractions or not wanting to process your emotions, you’re in resistance and this creates energetic blockages. When working with and processing your emotions, I encourage you to be in a safe space that’s filled with love. For example, you can visualize a beautiful sea of emerald green or pink to encase you in that moment.
- Say positive affirmations — Positive affirmations are a way to help train your thought patterns to bring in a new way of thinking. Here are some examples to get you started. “I am open to change.” “I choose to let go of any grief that is holding me back from conceiving a child.” “I deserve to be heard.” “I create room for new beginnings in my life.” Say each affirmation out loud or silently in your mind at least three times, one or more times per day. Some people find it helpful to write out the affirmations on a piece of paper. Find what works for you and go with it.
All of these tools are ways to help empower you on your way to motherhood. What a great role model for your future child.
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