A colleague recently sent me the link to a Huffington Post article about Beyoncé’s fertility and what it might be able to teach us about our own. I don’t always read articles such as these, but seeing Beyoncé’s name in the title piqued my interest. You see, I have two daughters who LOVE Beyoncé; so, her music is heard and her name is spoken in our household quite often.
I wasn’t sure what to expect from an article such as this, as I typically like to stay out of the hubbub of celebrities’ lives. As I read the article, I found myself agreeing with much of what the author had to say. She ended the article with the idea that finding out about your fertility is empowering. I couldn’t agree more!
Being informed about your fertility can be very empowering and it’s something I encourage people to do with one caveat. Oftentimes we ask people for advice and then think that what the person says is the God-given truth. This can happen with medical doctors, relatives, friends – you name it. I experienced it first-hand when I was going through unexplained secondary infertility and see it all the time with the clients I work with. With just one phrase like “You’re infertile” or “Your FSH levels are high” or “Why did you wait so long to get pregnant?” your whole life can change. If you find yourself going down a rabbit hole into the darkness once you hear information like this, it’s a sure-fire sign that you’re giving away your power from an energetic perspective – not a great practice, especially when you want to bring in a baby.
While information can be hugely valuable, I encourage you to check in with yourself to make sure that the information and the person giving you the information resonate with you. Regularly I hear clients talk about how they get anxious when they have to see their doctor because he or she doesn’t listen to them and doesn’t treat them as a real human being with feelings. Rather, they feel treated like a number or a lab rat. This is when I recommend that they check in with themselves to see if this person is a good fit for what they need. It’s so important to feel comfortable with the healthcare professionals and other people in our lives. If not, it creates stress. When there’s stress in the body, there’s tenseness and the flow of energy through your body stagnates. When you’re not stressed or anxious, your body can relax and let go – a much better way to enter conception and pregnancy.
I encourage you to ask yourself, “What feels right to me,” and to give yourself permission to go through your fertility journey the way that you want. If the doctor, midwife, friend or relative is telling you something but not connecting with you, give yourself permission to speak up about it. If you don’t feel heard or appreciated by the person, it might be time to find a different care provider or to find others to talk with. From an energetic perspective it’s always important for you to feel safe, comfortable and empowered with healthcare providers and all other people you choose to interact with. As you’re more comfortable in your body, you provide a more comfortable environment for your future child. What an empowering way to create and bring in life.
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