Part I: The importance of healthy boundaries
Our entire world seems to exist within boundaries beginning as soon as we are born. There are boundaries around who can hold a baby when you leave the hospital as well as rules each family puts in place to try to protect the family. We are all taught boundaries as we are domesticated into the world we live in, at home, at school and in our culture. We create boundaries to help us from feeling hurt.
Here are three ways healthy boundaries play an important role in our lives.
1.Boundaries help to define where our energetic space begins and ends.
2.Boundaries are important so that we can move at our own pace and in our own energy.
3.They help us define who we are and protect us from toxic energies, whether that’s someone’s unacceptable behavior, an unconscious pattern your brother has or your coworker’s seemingly innate ability to get into your space and stay there.
Boundaries are tools. Just like everything else, boundaries are energy. Since they are energy, the great thing is that you can work with your boundaries to shift them as you grow.
The first step is to become aware of your boundaries – or lack of boundaries. Once you become aware of this, you can shift and/or place your boundaries in such a way that helps you to grow within those boundaries. This implies that you can outgrow boundaries!
As you shift and grow, your energy shifts too. This is why you can outgrow boundaries. Perhaps you set a boundary with your mother when you were in your 20s because she liked to pry into your personal life. Now that you are older you might feel less of a need to keep your mom out of your personal life.
I invite you to think about how boundaries play a role in your life? Do you feel you have boundaries? Do you feel that they are healthy? Would you like to shift your boundaries? If yes, why?
In part two of this series, I will talk about some ways you can create healthy boundaries for yourself.
As we learn more about self-love, the role of boundaries becomes less powerful. In part three of this series I will delve in further to explain the difference between boundaries and barriers and how self-love plays a big role in our ability to let go of boundaries so that we can find more empowerment in us and our world.
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